I belong to a church where if you are asked to take a position it is considered a calling and tradition says "If called you must accept" I have post traumatic stress syndrome and am married to a man who is not a member of My faith. Fifteen tears ago I has invited to have a conversation with a member Of The priesthood Who apparently taught he had wonderful news for me ,I can not remember what "the calling" was but I do remember how the conversation felt to me , I sat silent For a minute in full panic, heart pounding know that I was already overwhelmed with My daily tasks Of raising twins working and trying to be some kind of wife to my husband when out of my mouth came the only words that would have and did silence the nice priesthood leader "My husband will not allow me to take that calling." His face fell he went pale He said Quietly more to himself than to me "I was so sure this was inspired " but to he credit he did not press me that fact that I was now a puddle of tears may have told him there was no reasoning to be done. My prospective now is that It was inspired and the answer was no , This leader was going to hear no eventually why not from me . The calling would not have blessed my life and helped me avoid the nervous breakdown I was headed for it just would have gotten me there faster. In life and church sometimes the answer is NO .